Wasted Honor -

Carl R. ToersBijns is the author of the Wasted Honor Trilogy [Wasted Honor I,II and Gorilla Justice] and his newest book From the Womb to the Tomb, the Tony Lester Story, which is a reflection of his life and his experiences as a correctional officer and a correctional administrator retiring with the rank of deputy warden in the New Mexico and Arizona correctional systems.

Carl also wrote a book on his combat experience in the Kindle book titled - Combat Medic - Men with destiny - A red cross of Valor -

Carl is considered by many a rogue expert in the field of prison security systems since leaving the profession. Carl has been involved in the design of many pilot programs related to mental health treatment, security threat groups, suicide prevention, and maximum custody operational plans including double bunking max inmates and enhancing security for staff. He invites you to read his books so you can understand and grasp the cultural and political implications and influences of these prisons. He deals with the emotions, the stress and anxiety as well as the realities faced working inside a prison. He deals with the occupational risks while elaborating on the psychological impact of both prison worker and prisoner.

His most recent book, Gorilla Justice, is an un-edited raw fictional version of realistic prison experiences and events through the eyes of an anecdotal translation of the inmate’s plight and suffering while enduring the harsh and toxic prison environment including solitary confinement.

Carl has been interviewed by numerous news stations and newspapers in Phoenix regarding the escape from the Kingman prison and other high profile media cases related to wrongful deaths and suicides inside prisons. His insights have been solicited by the ACLU, Amnesty International, and various other legal firms representing solitary confinement cases in California and Arizona. He is currently working on the STG Step Down program at Pelican Bay and has offered his own experience insights with the Center of Constitutional Rights lawyers and interns to establish a core program at the SHU units. He has personally corresponded and written with SHU prisoners to assess the living conditions and how it impacts their long term placement inside these type of units that are similar to those in Arizona Florence Eyman special management unit where Carl was a unit deputy warden for almost two years before his promotion to Deputy Warden of Operations in Safford and Eyman.

He is a strong advocate for the mentally ill and is a board member of David's Hope Inc. a non-profit advocacy group in Phoenix and also serves as a senior advisor for Law Enforcement Officers Advocates Council in Chino, California As a subject matter expert and corrections consultant, Carl has provided interviews and spoken on national and international radio talk shows e.g. BBC CBC Lou Show & TV shows as well as the Associated Press.

I use sarcasm, satire, parodies and other means to make you think!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sunday, September 25, 2016

An excerpt from the book - Moral Logic in Survivor's Guilt

Book LInk here
The logic of Survivor’s Guilt - The fact exists that the moral logic of experiencing what we call as Survivor Guilt is very complex and difficult to understand. If there is one thing we have learned from returning war veterans - especially those of the last few decades - it's that the emotional reality of the soldier at home is often at odds with that of the civilian public they left behind. This is a significant factor in perception.
Comparing combat conditions to peaceful standards is undoubtedly very skewed and misleading for the mind to understand and adjust to under stressful and anxious moments of reliving certain events.
While our friends and families of returning service members may be experiencing gratefulness or relief, many of those they've welcomed home are likely struggling with other emotions as well and guilt is usually one of them. Since guilt is so high on this list, it also carries a heavy burden.
In war, standing here rather than there can save your life but cost another person their life. It doesn’t matter if it was some freakish luck or circumstances beyond your control, but somehow you feel responsible.
The guilt begins an endless psychological and emotional loop of counterfactuals thoughts that you could have or should have done otherwise, though, in fact, you did nothing wrong.
Here is the most important part for the reader to understand – these feelings are, of course, not restricted to the battlefield. I want to say that out loud and strongly suggest you merely use this book as a template of the background of such tragedies.
Given the magnitude of personal and tragic losses in our lives, they hang heavy there and are pervasive. And they raise the question of just how irrational those feelings are, and if they aren't, of what is the basis of their reasonableness. how unreasonable is that feeling?
Subjective guilt, associated with this sense of responsibility, is thought to be irrational because one feels guilty despite the fact that one knows one has done nothing wrong.
Objective or rational guilt, by contrast-- guilt that is "fitting" to one's actions--accurately tracks real wrongdoing or culpability: guilt is appropriate because one acted to deliberately harm someone, or could have prevented harm and did not.
Blameworthiness, here, depends on the idea that a person could have done something other than he or she did. And so he is held responsible, by himself / herself or others.
In other words, we often take responsibility in a way that goes beyond what we can be held responsible for. And we feel the guilt that comes with that sense of responsibility. A responsibility that developed over time with those you served with honorable and realizing that your service was not just a duty to your country but that it was the love you have for mankind and life as well.
Survivor guilt piles on the unconscious thought that luck is part of a zero-sum game. To have good luck is to deprive another of it. The anguish of guilt, its sheer pain, is a way of sharing some of the ill fate. It is a form of empathic distress. However, I must stress this highly, do not dwell on regret. In most cases, the culpability for harm caused fell on others, not you and because of that, you are not morally responsible for what happened. The only person who can exonerate you of your guilt is yourself.
What you think you feel are feelings of guilt, and not simply regret that things didn't work out differently. For some reason, you decided to carry this awful weight of self-indictment, the empathy with the victim(s) and survivors, and feel the need to make the moral repair. If you didn’t feel that emotion, you would be thought of as a lesser person by some and not worthy of respect or friendship.
In all this we might say guilt, subjective guilt has a redemptive side. It is a way or comportments or demeanors some soldiers impose moral order on the chaos and awful randomness of war's violence. It is a way they humanize war for themselves, for their buddies, and for civilians, too. Keep that in mind when someone shares with your their feelings of guilt and or remorse on this matter.
If this sounds too moralistic than take peace of mind to the matter of feeling guilt and let it be appropriate or fitting thing to feel because it's good for society. It is the way we all can deal with war.

Wednesday, September 21, 2016

The Continuum of Violence

Friday, September 16, 2016

Monday, September 5, 2016

An excerpt from the book - Correctional Officers - An act of Intimidation

An Act of Intimidation -

Although not everybody has the traits to become an officer, others perform better than average because they have added an additional trait in their personality that can be helpful at timed during stressful situations or conflict. Some officers have learned how to intimidate people without the use of violence. In reality, this is something that everybody wants to be able to do but few have the testicoli to make anyone think twice of flinch, much less make them sweat or pea in their pants.
For those who possess the right qualities and characteristics to be intimidating (remember size is not always a factor) the art of intimidating someone can and will go a long way to getting what you want in the content and context of compliance. The best or most effective kind of intimidation style is the one that is implied.  The best intimidation is the one that's implied. By saying ‘implied’ one needs to be able to present command presence without being armed with a gun or any other non-lethal weapon and get the job done with pure old fashioned fear.
In a sense, you want prisoners to fear you but you also want them to respect you. Therefore, you have to walk a fine line that shows you are approachable and reasonable as well as a little bit on the crazy side of life. Being a little bit crazy is never a bad thing and helps your position when matters get tense around you.
 You want them to recognize your power – not necessarily a physical power but the power of influence, and the power to get things done your way. Although being someone of a large physique or standing six foot or taller makes a positive impression at times, it can also be a magnet for conflict if abused and combined with arrogance or abusive natures.
A fool with a weapon might get you to wet your pants, but you'll never be able to get the job done inside a jail or prison where guns are strictly prohibited and only carried and authorized on certain special posts such as transportation, tower, and court or hospital duty.
So let’s take the steps towards the art of intimidation without having to be 6'5" or 250 pounds as gender is not a factor nor is the size of the person in charge of compliance. Remember, you are being watched constantly so whatever you do, make a positive impression and use that perception to build a level of uncertainty and mystery about yourself to a degree, these predators will respect you at all times.
The best way to intimidate someone who doesn't know you from Adam is to remain upright and credible at all times and walk with an air of being as mysterious as possible. Be impossible to read or avoid being predictable. Sure, showing up at work unshaven, cuts and bruises and even wearing a cast along with having a scowl on your face, can help your look, but if you don't know how to carry yourself, whoever you are trying to intimidate won't know the difference between you and an easy prey for the predators around you.
The less someone knows about you, the more you leave things open to the imagination. The more blanks your opponent fills, the less menacing you are. It's that simple. Avoid telling your life story at work; avoid telling co-workers about your home life, your domestic relationships and your finances. The less they know about you, the better the uncertainty and mystery about you.
Fear feeds on the unknown and doubts in life. The more doubt you project about yourself, the better the act. Keep your emotions intact. Don’t show who you are and wear your heart on your sleeve. Everyone fears the unknown and uncertainty. If you don't know what to expect, you're more on guard. If someone finds out you cry during chick movies, well, guess what my friend? You won't even intimidate your blow-up doll.
The trick to present to the environment is to present a persona that he or she perceives to be unbalanced and unpredictable. The crazier the perception, the more wacko you act, the sweeter the pot is for delivering your Marlon Brando act of intimation.
Show your psyche to be strong inside and outside. Maintain a strong personality and avoid being ‘soft handed’ with people who deserve to be punished and not coddled. You are not a fatherly or motherly figure at work – you are the enforcer – the peacekeeper of the place – in essence, you are the gatekeeper. Be the intelligent one, yet show anyone who has doubts about you, you can come across as a barbarian or badass as well if the time comes to project such an image.
Intimidate by being unpredictable and show a fake unstable temperament or disposition. Be intelligent in mannerism but put on the normal MO people expect you to have and change it up without warning. Let people try to figure you out instead of thinking they already got you figured out. Be smart enough to toss a little doubt in the air and make some of your audience freak out – be cool and never lose your temper. You don't have to be violent to show the other guy you have a screw loose or that you're out of control.
Be a pseudo psycho, but be a scary psycho; let them fear your eyes. Take the emotion out of your stare and always make eye contact. Never, ever be nice or sensitive but remain professional and polite. This confuses them even more. You have to put it in your head that you are a cold, calculating machine and willing to execute your job to get the directives followed and obeyed without the use of force or disciplinary tickets.
In prison workplaces, there are always those prisoners who will try anyone to see how far they can get with their annoyance or their stupidity. For certain, there are certain guys that get tried on a daily basis and there are other guys who never get tried for whatever reason. It’s not always about looks because some of the biggest guys still get tried and get their asses beat and some of the smallest guys are avoided by literally everyone.
Why is this? It is suggested that everybody carries with them a certain command presence that is weak or strong or average. The more you work on your command presence, the stronger the aura that surrounds you and sends off vibes to the prisoners. What is important to understand is the fact that just because you haven’t been tried much, there will be times when we get checked therefore, you need to be aware and work on your image to keep it to a minimum while at work.
Building an intimidating look does not come from beating people’s asses, quite the contrary, keeping the air in an uncertain terms and doubt, keeps me a man of peace and honor but I do have a hidden demon within me. What does help is the willingness to participate in the craziness that gets going when the place jumps off and never hesitate to back up you fellow officers without any doubts.  What it means is that you are a bit of an adrenaline junkie, you love when the heart starts pumping, the warm “kill” flows through your veins and the skin starts to tingle from that juice making it to the surface putting a smile on your face and making you look crazy or willing to jump in the mix without fear.
You have to be one of those odd individuals who enjoys a stinging blow to the nose or the after-fight cool down when that warm juice recedes and the heart is working its way out of the throat. You have to preserve your reputation that when it comes down to ‘fight or flight’ you will never flee and stand your ground.
Look scrappy even if you are not the scrappy kind; talk and walk scrappy and make them think you are in ‘mad dog’ status.  If you don’t have it then let’s work on it. Remember these words - Intimidation starts with being unpredictable, if you are a short guy or gal, don’t let your shortness (aka Napoleon complex) get the better of you, people expect you to act that way so act the contrary.
If you stand tall and somewhat a muscular guy, don’t walk showing your guns on your arms. There is no need for that so be subtle about your big man tendencies, talk softly but directly, look into people’s souls when you talk to them. Stare beyond their eyes and force them to look away. When you get crossed and a fight can’t be avoided, turn instant animal and destroy that individual to the point where people have a “WTF” moment.
Don’t’ talk too much. Being a chatterbox is not the best tool at work. It may work for you at home but at work, keep the chatter down. Keep your speech short and relative. Listen a lot more than you contribute, this is the way of a predator, it will bring your closer to the psyche you seek. Kill emotion, a passionate guy is a weak guy, regardless of how sexy your girlfriend tells you it is when you jump in some guy’s face when he roots for another team, it makes you look like chump to the real sharks.
Never sit down when faced with a confrontation and never turn your back. Stay alert, remember you don’t want them to see you coming. Once you decide to get physical the rules change but if you can stare or talk them down, that is the preferred method at all times. Don’t get punked out and back off. Know your limits and where your back up is at all times. Once you decide to get physical go beyond ridiculous (slam them and slam them hard) and make them realize that pissing you off was probably the worst thing that they could have done at that point.
Make yourself the kind of person where they come to you as a last resort and positive interaction. This is accomplished by respect or in this case, mutual respect. Although you may be rolling deep in the ‘sanity’ department, you are still noticed and feared to be someone who can get things done. Another tool you can use it the buddy system and roll with a group or a single person who matches your persona or in some cases, parallels your demeanor but is easier to approach making this a ‘good cop bad cop’ situation to resolve problems. dare to walk beneath their personal or predatory zones, never walk away from your work area and show retreat.
Work on your self-possessed and self-assured talk and walk characteristics and keep it pseudo gangster-style but civil and never demeaning. Disrespecting someone sometimes has serious consequences and almost always done in an ambush style kind of revenge.
Don’t provoke a fight but always show the willingness to never run away from one. Imprint in your mind as well as those around you, if it comes down to ‘fight or flight’ you will fight. Just know that intimidation transcends the aspects of strangers more than anything else so transcend doubt, fear and uncertainties about yourself – the rest will work itself out.