Self-Loyalty

It has been often thought or said out loud many persons must first learn how to love themselves before they can learn to love others. In reality what this means is (s) he must value his or her own opinion of self somewhat less than those of others. Self-loyalty is not a politically correct perception or impression in today’s age and manners. It is often misjudged and distorted and confuses many people in the practice of such an idea.

One can say that self-loyalty is an attitude and not a behavior. On the other hand, to be in harmony with self-loyalty one must not lie to himself or herself  as it means you must remain honest and realize you can’t run away from who you are and what your own needs are while sacrificing them for the benefit of someone else. A paradox perhaps, but a reality just the same that self-sacrifice is an important of this process.

Facing these facts makes self-loyalty a complicated situation for many who strive to be someone accepted by many if not all. Hence they are often misunderstood or called selfish in nature. Self-loyalty is essentially being someone who can be a natural best you can be individual who doesn’t worry about the needs of someone else if they compromise their own.

Sacrificing comes at the price of being your own person and dealing with difficult situations sometimes and is often subject to much peer pressure or family admonishment. You cannot lie to yourself and you can’t undermine your own life or future giving in to the demands of others. You can’t or shouldn’t make excuses for your perceived personal failures as you refuse to enable others but realize you must first enable yourself to be strong and dependable for future needs or expectations.

You must learn to enforce and reinforce everything in your life and not run away from them no matter how difficult they may be for you. You must be honest with yourself and stop enabling others who may force the issue when the subject comes up. This applies to every aspect of your life, both physically and mentally. Don’t make excuses for your shortcomings and no matter what the reason, be honest about how to take your own responsibility for these shortcomings rather than making excuses. Those who understand your reasoning or motive will respect you as you become consistently better at this progression of taking care of yourself first.

Self-loyalty is not the same as being selfish. Putting your own needs first is done to bring wellness and helping yourself in order to maintain a positive spirit within yourself. One must honestly ask “how can I help someone else if I am not well?” Keep your obligations or promises in perspective and do them with the competences you have by helping yourself first to face the challenges and fulfill your own obligation while you are feeling better about yourself and what you do. Its’ the best way to show people who you really are and how you feel about yourself as you feel better about yourself around others.

America, I am asking a question?

Been keeping quiet on many things and not wanting to muddy the water any more than it already is. Murky to say the least I fear two things:

1. the government and its agents have all the sophisticated war military like equipment they need to control crowds and riots.

2. the government and its agents have done their best to strip Second Amendment rights where they can and limit access to specific ammunition by buying it up.

One has to ask one question? Is it for terrorist control or is it for controlling Americans sick of the way government handles everything? Just thinking out loud who the real enemy is inside America? I am sure this will draw fire from somewhere as its not of a popular approach but rather a caustic pessimistic one.

Judging Others

Judging Others

Whether we admit it or not, we as a society in a whole, tend to judge others who may seem different or less acceptable in the manners demonstrated or expressed by ourselves. In other words, when you don’t live up to society’s expectations, you will be judged not based on heart or humility but by the harshness of perception and not knowing what is in your heart. This is so wrong.

This seems to be a foolish approach but it happens every day in our world. We tend to extract what we like and condemn or dislike what we disagree with in either a political or personal sense. Not once do we bother to ask them what is in their hearts. Thus we refuse to tread lightly and push our sentimental judgment one way or another based on biased thoughts and personal morality codes that are flawed at best for no man is perfect.

Do we really care what others think of us? Apparently many do as they are hurt or even offended by societal words, thoughts or deeds. Rarely do we condemn ourselves first before we cast the first stone. Rarely do we take into consideration our own flaws and cast the evil spell their way for committing such immoral deeds or words. Judging others requires judging ourselves first and instill those values that are in good spirits rather than in harshness and less than wholesome in content or acts. 

This makes us accountable to ourselves first and without this self-assessment whatever society may throw the other way is inexcusable in nature and spirit. It is not society’s role to cast stones and judge others. That was left up to God and only God will deal with such immorality or wickedness in His own ways. 

So stay away from judging others. Keep your heart true to yourself and treasure the moments of creating and feeling the goodness inside of you. This will commit you to do no harm to others merely on the spirit within you and help you bring harmony and compassion around you. You will be blessed and receive revelations of the good things in life rather than the negative and ugly wrath such condemnation brings into your heart or mind. 

Reaching out for goodness will bring you blessings. Reaching out for compassion will bring you treasures and reaching out for understanding will bring you less suffering around you and your family. Work within your own salvation. Work according to your beliefs and good deeds. Do not fear to be different when you follow your moral compass and remember that that whatever you do unto others should be what you want done to you.

Loyalty to Oneself

There have been many articles written about loyalty and most of them are about commitment to an organization or the organizational leadership. 

Much can be said about those principles and being completely honest, many have their own merits in the manner loyalty is applied to such conditions of employment. The same word can and should be applied to yourself.

Loyalty can be personal, professional or geographically to a place, location, city or country. The application can be applied to a vast number of things but it always begins at home with yourself. You may love your job, love your workplace or the city where you live and that is reasonable.

However, when it comes to being loyal to yourself it seems you sacrifice for others before you give yourself what you earned, deserve or worked for. This is something that needs to be addressed in order for you to feel complete about who you are and what purpose you have in life.

All your life you have sought self-improvements that would enhance your skills in communication, occupation and used them to receive a check for the services rendered and earned. Basically speaking, it was your trained skills that got you the job and ability to earn that check. Additionally, it was the control you took over your own life, your desires and needs to become a better person that allowed you the opportunities that have been laid out there before you.

During that time you chose different reasons for doing what you needed to do to become a better person. In time you became a confident and competent person in those areas you chose to be interested in and worked hard, even sacrificed, to get what you wanted. Such dedication and commitment should be noted and deserve special recognition of who you are and what you can do.

The value of your own success depends largely on how you feel about yourself. Your confidence is built on who you are, where you have been and how well you did when challenged with difficult decisions in your life. Recognizing you made personal sacrifices is important as those were major issues to consider during your decision making process and should be acknowledged in your value of yourself.

 

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