Wasted Honor -

Carl R. ToersBijns is the author of the Wasted Honor Trilogy [Wasted Honor I,II and Gorilla Justice] and his newest book From the Womb to the Tomb, the Tony Lester Story, which is a reflection of his life and his experiences as a correctional officer and a correctional administrator retiring with the rank of deputy warden in the New Mexico and Arizona correctional systems.

Carl also wrote a book on his combat experience in the Kindle book titled - Combat Medic - Men with destiny - A red cross of Valor -

Carl is considered by many a rogue expert in the field of prison security systems since leaving the profession. Carl has been involved in the design of many pilot programs related to mental health treatment, security threat groups, suicide prevention, and maximum custody operational plans including double bunking max inmates and enhancing security for staff. He invites you to read his books so you can understand and grasp the cultural and political implications and influences of these prisons. He deals with the emotions, the stress and anxiety as well as the realities faced working inside a prison. He deals with the occupational risks while elaborating on the psychological impact of both prison worker and prisoner.

His most recent book, Gorilla Justice, is an un-edited raw fictional version of realistic prison experiences and events through the eyes of an anecdotal translation of the inmate’s plight and suffering while enduring the harsh and toxic prison environment including solitary confinement.

Carl has been interviewed by numerous news stations and newspapers in Phoenix regarding the escape from the Kingman prison and other high profile media cases related to wrongful deaths and suicides inside prisons. His insights have been solicited by the ACLU, Amnesty International, and various other legal firms representing solitary confinement cases in California and Arizona. He is currently working on the STG Step Down program at Pelican Bay and has offered his own experience insights with the Center of Constitutional Rights lawyers and interns to establish a core program at the SHU units. He has personally corresponded and written with SHU prisoners to assess the living conditions and how it impacts their long term placement inside these type of units that are similar to those in Arizona Florence Eyman special management unit where Carl was a unit deputy warden for almost two years before his promotion to Deputy Warden of Operations in Safford and Eyman.

He is a strong advocate for the mentally ill and is a board member of David's Hope Inc. a non-profit advocacy group in Phoenix and also serves as a senior advisor for Law Enforcement Officers Advocates Council in Chino, California As a subject matter expert and corrections consultant, Carl has provided interviews and spoken on national and international radio talk shows e.g. BBC CBC Lou Show & TV shows as well as the Associated Press.

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Thursday, October 24, 2013

Correctional Officers – Co-workers as Psychological Vampires


Do you work around people that ruin your happiness or can’t find happiness of their own? Does your workplace have persons who just hasn’t seen or felt any satisfaction in their own lives and become a huge influence of negativity around you and others that grows stronger and stronger as they suck more victims in? Perhaps you are working with psychological vampires that work hard to take the sunshine out of your life so they can feel better of their own despairs.

As the myth goes, vampires have existed for a long time and exist within many different cultures throughout history. It appears that these vampires have broken through to the other side as they are now becoming a prevalent dynamism to reckon with inside the workplace. These men and women live off others’ psychic energy and can offer you nothing but worries, frustration and false hopes of things getting better. Believe it or not, these kind of vampires do exist.

They are hidden well and often difficult to spot or identify as they blend into the environment without casting shadows. Sometimes they are your friends or are in the process and work hard to win your favor. Sometimes they are helpers and other times they are your bosses. Their personalities appear to be dynamic, intelligent and nice to you and others but deceit is a common denominator among them. 

Once you let them enter your world, you will quickly fall victim of being lethargic and tired of what never bothered you before and evolve into a person with low esteem as well as a low level of resilience that robs you of your energy and subconscious. When the nighttime comes, they come out in a manner that is classic of all vampires and take away your efforts to replenish yourself with positive energy leaving your feeling helpless sometimes as they wear you down.

Vampires come into your life offering you something, sometimes they come bearing a gift or they do you a great favor. Sometimes they are helpers. They seem more dynamic, intelligent and nicer than others. They seem bigger than life, they shine because they cast no shadow. A vampire does not own their shadow qualities. Once you let them into your life, you will notice a feeling of tiredness, a sense of low self-esteem and a need to replenish yourself often.

Not exclusive of the nighttime they can show up anytime even on a sunny day. Oblivious to the light, they work hard to take the sunshine away from your life. When they arrive, they fit in like a classic symbol of sleep. You can resist a vampire by remaining conscious and awake. Being susceptible and vulnerable to these kind of vampires is a reality.

In fact, there are times when you vulnerability gives them the precise moment or opportunity to invade your body and mind with the kind of characteristics that resemble love or compassion but are in fact the opposite.  Rather than being the cure for what ails you they are the disease you need to be aware of at all times. Courting them is a big mistake and can have serious implications when you do and fall victim to the game.

Psychological vampires come to you looking for love and power. When they can’t find their own they seek the attention of another to develop an internal relationship that leeches off your emotions and taps it into theirs. They use the power you have since they have none to attain the things they want but unable to grasp onto because of their vileness and dissatisfying attitudes. They are filled with entitlements and take away your belongings as they manipulate you into giving to them everything you own.

Some vampires become correctional officers because they believe that when they are helping someone they know they can obtain energy from others and it is easier to do inside such a captive environment. These creatures often lecture you with their self-established wisdoms and appear overly nice or helpful but in reality they take your mind and spirit as their payment for such feats.

There must be caution in the wind as they can also be predacious in nature and siphon your energy before you realize it. They are hyper workers that pay attention to details and never miss a thing you do if it can benefit them. So how does a psychological vampire act? These are the common traits of a vampire:

             Obsessive compulsive with Borderline Personality disorders

             Narcissistic in nature and love themselves more than others

             Have many broken relationships

             Non-committal and procrastinators in their own lives

             Intimidating and apply bully-like behaviors

             Suffocating others and dominating so you can’t breathe on your own

             Use weaknesses as the pathway into your life or relationship

             Ask a lot of personal questions and want to get to know you better

             Victimize others to make themselves feel better about themselves

             Knowledge gives them power

Last but not least these kind of vampires are heartless and unfeeling to your human emotional needs as they work hard to drain you every chance they get. They seek unconditional and unquestionable love, something they can’t give themselves but rely on others to fulfill their needs. Since they are likeable and plentiful around you it is important you pay attention to these kind of personalities and behaviors. Remember they size you up for your strengths and weaknesses and use every bit of it against you when the time is right for them.

Their attacks appear to be subtle snide remarks or comments that undermines your self-worth and deflates your ego. They seem to be offering you something but in reality give you nothing in return. They can’t handle the truth and want nothing to do with hearing what is wrong with them but are quick to criticize others. Thinking that if they can exist among you for any prolonged periods of time, you will eventually accept them and at that point, whatever you do is for them and your long term health has been jeopardized and impaired without your knowing that the source of such detrimental effects are the vampires that surround you and bleed you daily so they can exist and be satisfied never seeing their own shadows.

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