Anger & Hostilities

Wasted Honor -

Carl R. ToersBijns is the author of the Wasted Honor Trilogy [Wasted Honor I,II and Gorilla Justice] and his newest book From the Womb to the Tomb, the Tony Lester Story, which is a reflection of his life and his experiences as a correctional officer and a correctional administrator retiring with the rank of deputy warden in the New Mexico and Arizona correctional systems.

Carl also wrote a book on his combat experience in the Kindle book titled - Combat Medic - Men with destiny - A red cross of Valor -

Carl is considered by many a rogue expert in the field of prison security systems since leaving the profession. Carl has been involved in the design of many pilot programs related to mental health treatment, security threat groups, suicide prevention, and maximum custody operational plans including double bunking max inmates and enhancing security for staff. He invites you to read his books so you can understand and grasp the cultural and political implications and influences of these prisons. He deals with the emotions, the stress and anxiety as well as the realities faced working inside a prison. He deals with the occupational risks while elaborating on the psychological impact of both prison worker and prisoner.

His most recent book, Gorilla Justice, is an un-edited raw fictional version of realistic prison experiences and events through the eyes of an anecdotal translation of the inmate’s plight and suffering while enduring the harsh and toxic prison environment including solitary confinement.

Carl has been interviewed by numerous news stations and newspapers in Phoenix regarding the escape from the Kingman prison and other high profile media cases related to wrongful deaths and suicides inside prisons. His insights have been solicited by the ACLU, Amnesty International, and various other legal firms representing solitary confinement cases in California and Arizona. He is currently working on the STG Step Down program at Pelican Bay and has offered his own experience insights with the Center of Constitutional Rights lawyers and interns to establish a core program at the SHU units. He has personally corresponded and written with SHU prisoners to assess the living conditions and how it impacts their long term placement inside these type of units that are similar to those in Arizona Florence Eyman special management unit where Carl was a unit deputy warden for almost two years before his promotion to Deputy Warden of Operations in Safford and Eyman.

He is a strong advocate for the mentally ill and is a board member of David's Hope Inc. a non-profit advocacy group in Phoenix and also serves as a senior advisor for Law Enforcement Officers Advocates Council in Chino, California As a subject matter expert and corrections consultant, Carl has provided interviews and spoken on national and international radio talk shows e.g. BBC CBC Lou Show & TV shows as well as the Associated Press.

I use sarcasm, satire, parodies and other means to make you think!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Saturday, March 1, 2014

Anger & Hostilities

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The happy song has hit this nation by storm and there is much to be said for being happy. Happy is a positive feeling that may actually take you to a better life if you know how to leave the anger behind. Sometimes, in our lives, there appears to be more annoyance than happiness. Some of the reasons we allow our senses to bring out the madness as we are targeted or criticized by a person or the boss, an attacker or belligerent individual, disagreements with family, friends or co-workers and sometimes, anger with yourself.

The first thing we have to admit is that anger brings hostilities and not accepting what the reality is at the moment and usually is something you can’t change. Hostilities bring out surges of negative energies aimed at another person or a threat that you may have identified to be a cause of the problem. Reacting with hostility is a self-admittance that you do not have the ability to accept the unchangeable.

Keeping the two apart is very important to remember for anger can be more socially acceptable but hostilities are destructive and often harmful to others or self. Normally hostilities create conflict with rules and laws established under the rule of public complaints or threats and nuisances to others.

Anger can often be self-maintained and controlled while hostilities are usually external and visible as you are observed to yell, kick, curse or throwing a temper tantrum that only serves to beat yourself up even if you have learned your lesson.

Thus we may agree that anger is the lesser degree of the two as hostility is not accepting the change or surrendering to the reality. Hostilities that are ranted for prolonged periods even after your realization that you can’t change the fact brings it beyond the reality. It is here where you begin to demonstrate emotions of desperation or projecting an “I am right” attitude that may be difficult for others to understand.

If you believe that you can choose to be happy and have learned the methods of controlling your temper or anger, you know that you can be happy in the future-no matter what the reality is. Therefore, accepting the fact that past is the past, to forgive is best and letting go will allow you to change your reality and move on.