Making friends out of possible enemies -

Wasted Honor -

Carl R. ToersBijns is the author of the Wasted Honor Trilogy [Wasted Honor I,II and Gorilla Justice] and his newest book From the Womb to the Tomb, the Tony Lester Story, which is a reflection of his life and his experiences as a correctional officer and a correctional administrator retiring with the rank of deputy warden in the New Mexico and Arizona correctional systems.

Carl also wrote a book on his combat experience in the Kindle book titled - Combat Medic - Men with destiny - A red cross of Valor -

Carl is considered by many a rogue expert in the field of prison security systems since leaving the profession. Carl has been involved in the design of many pilot programs related to mental health treatment, security threat groups, suicide prevention, and maximum custody operational plans including double bunking max inmates and enhancing security for staff. He invites you to read his books so you can understand and grasp the cultural and political implications and influences of these prisons. He deals with the emotions, the stress and anxiety as well as the realities faced working inside a prison. He deals with the occupational risks while elaborating on the psychological impact of both prison worker and prisoner.

His most recent book, Gorilla Justice, is an un-edited raw fictional version of realistic prison experiences and events through the eyes of an anecdotal translation of the inmate’s plight and suffering while enduring the harsh and toxic prison environment including solitary confinement.

Carl has been interviewed by numerous news stations and newspapers in Phoenix regarding the escape from the Kingman prison and other high profile media cases related to wrongful deaths and suicides inside prisons. His insights have been solicited by the ACLU, Amnesty International, and various other legal firms representing solitary confinement cases in California and Arizona. He is currently working on the STG Step Down program at Pelican Bay and has offered his own experience insights with the Center of Constitutional Rights lawyers and interns to establish a core program at the SHU units. He has personally corresponded and written with SHU prisoners to assess the living conditions and how it impacts their long term placement inside these type of units that are similar to those in Arizona Florence Eyman special management unit where Carl was a unit deputy warden for almost two years before his promotion to Deputy Warden of Operations in Safford and Eyman.

He is a strong advocate for the mentally ill and is a board member of David's Hope Inc. a non-profit advocacy group in Phoenix and also serves as a senior advisor for Law Enforcement Officers Advocates Council in Chino, California As a subject matter expert and corrections consultant, Carl has provided interviews and spoken on national and international radio talk shows e.g. BBC CBC Lou Show & TV shows as well as the Associated Press.

I use sarcasm, satire, parodies and other means to make you think!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Friday, October 30, 2015

Making friends out of possible enemies -

Making friends out of possible enemies?

If you have been following my blogs and posts you will see how I have mocked and criticized the simple simplicity of violent and religiously directed ideologies in our world today. None of it was meant to be a personal attack on any Muslim living within the means of a peaceful religion and practices what they preach. It was simply a brutal assault on radical Muslims who use the name of their religion to conquer the minds and souls of innocent people and do things that are horrific and atrocious in nature as they demonstrate a will of genocide against all of those sects who do not agree or approve of their Islam ideology.

I mocked it, I deviled it and I denounced it. There is no love, compassion or kindness or even a slight justification upheld within such barbaric behaviors. It defies our morality and does not follow the golden rule we have been taught since we were young. My goal is peace – soothing, calming, and glowing peace. Although realistically improbable, I won’t give up on these visions of harmony and reconciliation of our universally prompted differences that creates unity for the right reasons.

Every person wants love; every child deserves to be loved. People should be able to enjoy life with a light-hearted sense of humor and pleasantries that promote good will. Therefore, until the world sees what the evil side of the ISIL or other terror groups of the world’s terror looks like, I will continue to mock it, defile it and denounce it until it is defeated or my peace has been attained.

I will join hands and make friends with those who are not the enemy of our way of life. I will shake the hand of the man or woman and hug a child, who believes in a good God and equality for all. Life is not a bowl of cherries or a box of chocolate and even the powerful scent of the incense plumes used to masquerade the hate in the room, will not deter me to keep writing about the concerns of the world and our own country’s survival.

Sometimes I will refine my words while other times, I will straightforwardly state my case of concerns. I will and shall extend my hand of friendship to all I meet, including Muslims who move into the light and true directions of peace and harmony. There has to be an understanding between friend and foe.

There has to be less emotion present to detect a motive or reason hidden beneath the surface to gain an upper hand in the social or spiritual status in our world. Remaining logical and reasonable is better than being paranoid and extremely apprehensive of all who worship other religions or live their lives in a different fashion.

The codes we live by must have harmony and relative stabilization in words and tone. We must communicate with honesty. Beyond the terrorists are a great number of good people but at first hand and day’s light, we must see for ourselves who they are and why they do what they do in their culture that is so different than ours. If a common temple of spiritual bliss exists, why can’t we be friends? I suggest moderation and caution is the best way to achieve this bliss.

The world has got the Muslims’ plight of ‘fight or flight’ in their cross hairs or in their compassionate revelations. Their pain and sorrow has attracted or drawn much attention. The deep color of racism should not interfere with charity and good will but the face of terrorism must be found early so that deceit cannot destroy our hearts and minds.

There are those who tell the truth and there are those who are lying. Some just say what the people want them to say. Awareness and scrutiny is key to deceptive practices and before we reach out to shake a hand, we must know for sure, they are willing to be the same and uninitiated and uncorrupt in their games.

Christians, Buddhists, Hindus, Muslims and many other religions in our universe are like the stars above us in our heavens. There are many, too many to count and see. Like the stars up above, the good people can reflect their light towards others. We can love them, respect them and treat this as an act of good nature and sincerity with an open mind and making good choices.

The same can be said for all who practice their own faith or beliefs and even the atheists that live among us can be included in this cosmos of creating trust and understandings. They can be the light of joy and love or the darkness of hate and anger. Basically speaking, mankind were meant to love and be loved. No amount of guns, veils, masks or violence can change that for all – however, there will be those who will fight and defend what they believe in and that by itself may start the conflict or wars all over again. We have a choice of love or hate and realize whatever choice we make, there are consequences for making such decisions.

Love is a reflection of the light; hate is the reflection of the darkness. We talk about peer pressure, social stigmas and stereotyping people because we ourselves are possessed with our own individual biases, prejudices or partial feelings. How we open up our minds, educate ourselves and think with reason rather than emotion, will make the difference of a lifetime. We must maintain a distance from hatred. We must erase the bigotry from our ancestral mothers and fathers and teach hope. Finally, we must measure and calculate the distance between love and understanding each other’s culture and customs to allow our hearts and minds to break open the possibilities of becoming friends and partners in life.

So as we break into the chasms of our minds to share these feelings with strangers, it is my desire to become your friend and not your foe. I realize the primordial simplicity is difficult to attain to open our eyes and trust our senses but that’s the first step for gaining a satisfaction to mend the hearts and put the pieces back together.

Life is full of change and chances. The truth be told, everyone deserved a chance to change. I feel there is much hope to find a common thread of love and compassion between all of us if we reach out and talk about the love and step back from the hate and suspicion that surrounds us. How we do this has to come with a relative feeling of being safe, we don’t want to risk dropping our guard and letting the pain inside. In recognition of this needed security we ask you do the same and put your mind at ease that we can be friend over a prolonged period of time.

So in order to make my enemy my friend, I must exchange our mutual disappointments. We must remind each other of the best way to bond as friends have done in childhood and set the negative sentiments aside. I want to suggest we connect as friends while we remain vigilant and cautiously defend ourselves from any extremely rooted hidden motives on the inside.