Jodi Arias, the Dangers of Manipulation

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Carl R. ToersBijns is the author of the Wasted Honor Trilogy [Wasted Honor I,II and Gorilla Justice] and his newest book From the Womb to the Tomb, the Tony Lester Story, which is a reflection of his life and his experiences as a correctional officer and a correctional administrator retiring with the rank of deputy warden in the New Mexico and Arizona correctional systems.

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Carl is considered by many a rogue expert in the field of prison security systems since leaving the profession. Carl has been involved in the design of many pilot programs related to mental health treatment, security threat groups, suicide prevention, and maximum custody operational plans including double bunking max inmates and enhancing security for staff. He invites you to read his books so you can understand and grasp the cultural and political implications and influences of these prisons. He deals with the emotions, the stress and anxiety as well as the realities faced working inside a prison. He deals with the occupational risks while elaborating on the psychological impact of both prison worker and prisoner.

His most recent book, Gorilla Justice, is an un-edited raw fictional version of realistic prison experiences and events through the eyes of an anecdotal translation of the inmate’s plight and suffering while enduring the harsh and toxic prison environment including solitary confinement.

Carl has been interviewed by numerous news stations and newspapers in Phoenix regarding the escape from the Kingman prison and other high profile media cases related to wrongful deaths and suicides inside prisons. His insights have been solicited by the ACLU, Amnesty International, and various other legal firms representing solitary confinement cases in California and Arizona. He is currently working on the STG Step Down program at Pelican Bay and has offered his own experience insights with the Center of Constitutional Rights lawyers and interns to establish a core program at the SHU units. He has personally corresponded and written with SHU prisoners to assess the living conditions and how it impacts their long term placement inside these type of units that are similar to those in Arizona Florence Eyman special management unit where Carl was a unit deputy warden for almost two years before his promotion to Deputy Warden of Operations in Safford and Eyman.

He is a strong advocate for the mentally ill and is a board member of David's Hope Inc. a non-profit advocacy group in Phoenix and also serves as a senior advisor for Law Enforcement Officers Advocates Council in Chino, California As a subject matter expert and corrections consultant, Carl has provided interviews and spoken on national and international radio talk shows e.g. BBC CBC Lou Show & TV shows as well as the Associated Press.

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Friday, May 24, 2013

Jodi Arias, the Dangers of Manipulation

In my research of this convicted murderer one word seems to come up a lot and without hesitation. A word that says it all but is very often underestimated and often ignored until it is too late to do anything about it and the damage has been done. The goal is simple and easy to accomplish if you are good at it and use it wisely and sparingly. This word is manipulation and it can cause deep fulfilling authentic and realistic connections that allows a solid emotional and effective foundation to abuse social relationships with a touch of delicacy that resembles threading a needle in the darkness and getting it done.

So the word is recognized to be a powerful tool of persuasion and can be used for good things as well as bad things. The goal depends on the purpose designed and the device provided to make something happen in your favor or give you the upper hand in a conversation that is designed with a prearranged outcome to suit your needs. Simply speaking is used to build relationships designed to allow you to acquire things or actions that will enhance your opportunity to get something you really want but are not supposed to have.

This kind of tool is very seductive and if gender is used to back it up, it can be even more effective if not lethal. The art of manipulation includes deceit. It is used to gain power over others and can be most destructive as it influences other’s mindset and decision making. After all, it is designed to make others do what you want them to do.

People working around manipulators must be aware at all times they are subject to being played for a fool. Once they are hooked and lined up for the bait, all it takes is the right time and place to initiate the desired outcome and take advantage of the leverage given in this exact and deliberately deployed relationship. Fundamentally speaking, manipulation is built on trust and respect. Since this can be imitated or falsely played it is a main motivator for deceit.

Hence there lies a danger of manipulation as it is always built on mutual trust and respect and is formatted through lies and actions that are essentially used to cover up true motives until the time is right to execute. Manipulation is short term but can serve the purpose of deceit if used aptly and carefully. You are using the faux relationship to establish intimacy and do it within a short time frame so you can get the most out of the effort to get what you want.

I am of opinion that Jodi Arias has learned how to influence people to do what she wants or to seduce men or create a false impression she cares and fools others to allow them to contribute to her needs but offer them nothing in return. Hence the danger of such an act as it requires tactful demonstrations of emotion and not physical force to attain compliance or cooperation.

I believe that if Arias is observed and managed properly she will be discovered as a manipulator and dealt with appropriately and administratively. She will attempt to psychologically twist your arm to do something for her but you must be aware that this is exactly how they work their mind games. Don’t give her a chance to really know you for you will fall victim to the game.

Limit your interactions and keep it short and professional. Even if you don’t have good social skills you can control the direction of the conversation by controlling topic or subject matter and keeping it short and impersonal. Most of all don’t give up or in and don’t settle for a compromise for she will take you to the bank and laugh all the way to wherever she wanted to go even inside a prison.