Shit Happens ~ Dealing with Awkward moments

Wasted Honor -

Carl R. ToersBijns is the author of the Wasted Honor Trilogy [Wasted Honor I,II and Gorilla Justice] and his newest book From the Womb to the Tomb, the Tony Lester Story, which is a reflection of his life and his experiences as a correctional officer and a correctional administrator retiring with the rank of deputy warden in the New Mexico and Arizona correctional systems.

Carl also wrote a book on his combat experience in the Kindle book titled - Combat Medic - Men with destiny - A red cross of Valor -

Carl is considered by many a rogue expert in the field of prison security systems since leaving the profession. Carl has been involved in the design of many pilot programs related to mental health treatment, security threat groups, suicide prevention, and maximum custody operational plans including double bunking max inmates and enhancing security for staff. He invites you to read his books so you can understand and grasp the cultural and political implications and influences of these prisons. He deals with the emotions, the stress and anxiety as well as the realities faced working inside a prison. He deals with the occupational risks while elaborating on the psychological impact of both prison worker and prisoner.

His most recent book, Gorilla Justice, is an un-edited raw fictional version of realistic prison experiences and events through the eyes of an anecdotal translation of the inmate’s plight and suffering while enduring the harsh and toxic prison environment including solitary confinement.

Carl has been interviewed by numerous news stations and newspapers in Phoenix regarding the escape from the Kingman prison and other high profile media cases related to wrongful deaths and suicides inside prisons. His insights have been solicited by the ACLU, Amnesty International, and various other legal firms representing solitary confinement cases in California and Arizona. He is currently working on the STG Step Down program at Pelican Bay and has offered his own experience insights with the Center of Constitutional Rights lawyers and interns to establish a core program at the SHU units. He has personally corresponded and written with SHU prisoners to assess the living conditions and how it impacts their long term placement inside these type of units that are similar to those in Arizona Florence Eyman special management unit where Carl was a unit deputy warden for almost two years before his promotion to Deputy Warden of Operations in Safford and Eyman.

He is a strong advocate for the mentally ill and is a board member of David's Hope Inc. a non-profit advocacy group in Phoenix and also serves as a senior advisor for Law Enforcement Officers Advocates Council in Chino, California As a subject matter expert and corrections consultant, Carl has provided interviews and spoken on national and international radio talk shows e.g. BBC CBC Lou Show & TV shows as well as the Associated Press.

I use sarcasm, satire, parodies and other means to make you think!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Monday, November 26, 2012

Shit Happens ~ Dealing with Awkward moments

Shit Happens

By Carl R. ToersBijns

A phrase that has been around for the last several decades, it is the most perfect American expression today or any other time in the past to describe life’s imperfections and unexpected surprises. Some people have shit happen to them on a daily basis while others experience it only once in a while being more fortunate than others in this phenomenon.

One can relate to the expression whenever something goes wrong. It is realistic that no matter how careful, how well planned or how organized we are as individuals, there is no guarantee that shit won’t happen to you.

We always hope for the best and that shit happens to others before it happens to ourselves. However, as you age you become more aware and face the facts more realistically that shit happening is completely out of span of control and not worth worrying about as you always prepare for the worst in life.

No amount of preparation will avoid it from happening. It has to be accepted as a part of life. These awkward moments will surely test your skill to handle crisis, accidents or other events. You have to learn to be prepared to openly respond and face the fact that everything in life does not have a happy ending. Picking up the pieces, moving on and dealing with this reality allows you to handle awkward predicaments better and makes you stronger in the long run.

November 26, 2012